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TROPICAL STORM WARNING IN EFFECT A Tropical Storm Warning means tropical storm-force winds are expected somewhere within this area within the next 36 hours * LOCATIONS AFFECTED - Huntington - Smithtown - Port Jefferson * WIND - LATEST LOCAL FORECAST: Equivalent Tropical Storm force wind - Peak Wind Forecast: 40-50 mph with gusts to 70 mph - Window for Tropical Storm force winds: Tuesday afternoon until Tuesday evening - THREAT TO LIFE AND PROPERTY THAT INCLUDES TYPICAL FORECAST UNCERTAINTY IN TRACK, SIZE AND INTENSITY: Potential for wind 58 to 73 mph - The wind threat has remained nearly steady from the previous assessment. - PLAN: Plan for dangerous wind of equivalent strong tropical storm force. - PREPARE: Remaining efforts to protect life and property should be completed as soon as possible. Prepare for significant wind damage. - ACT: Move to safe shelter before the wind becomes hazardous. - POTENTIAL IMPACTS: Significant - Some damage to roofing and siding materials, along with damage to porches, awnings, carports, and sheds. A few buildings experiencing window, door, and garage door failures. Mobile homes damaged, especially if unanchored. Unsecured lightweight objects become dangerous projectiles. - Several large trees snapped or uprooted, but with greater numbers in places where trees are shallow rooted. Several fences and roadway signs blown over. - Some roads impassable from large debris, and more within urban or heavily wooded places. A few bridges, causeways, and access routes impassable. - Scattered power and communications outages, but more prevalent in areas with above ground lines. * STORM SURGE - LATEST LOCAL FORECAST: Localized storm surge possible - Peak Storm Surge Inundation: The potential for up to 2 feet above ground somewhere within surge prone areas - Window of concern: Tuesday afternoon until early Wednesday morning - THREAT TO LIFE AND PROPERTY THAT INCLUDES TYPICAL FORECAST UNCERTAINTY IN TRACK, SIZE AND INTENSITY: Potential for storm surge flooding greater than 1 foot above ground - The storm surge threat has remained nearly steady from the previous assessment. - PLAN: Plan for storm surge flooding greater than 1 foot above ground. - PREPARE: Complete preparations for storm surge flooding, especially in low-lying vulnerable areas, before conditions become unsafe. - ACT: Leave immediately if evacuation orders are given for your area. - POTENTIAL IMPACTS: Limited - Localized inundation with storm surge flooding mainly along immediate shorelines and in low lying spots, or in areas farther inland near where higher surge waters move ashore. - Sections of near shore roads and parking lots become overspread with surge water. Driving conditions dangerous in places where surge water covers the road. - Moderate beach erosion. Heavy surf also breaching dunes, mainly in usually vulnerable locations. Strong and frequent rip currents. - Minor to locally moderate damage to marinas, docks, boardwalks, and piers. A few small craft broken away from moorings. * FLOODING RAIN - LATEST LOCAL FORECAST: - Peak Rainfall Amounts: Additional 1-3 inches, with locally higher amounts - THREAT TO LIFE AND PROPERTY THAT INCLUDES TYPICAL FORECAST UNCERTAINTY IN TRACK, SIZE AND INTENSITY: Potential for moderate flooding rain - The flooding rain threat has remained nearly steady from the previous assessment. - PLAN: Emergency plans should include the potential for moderate flooding from heavy rain. Evacuations and rescues are possible. - PREPARE: Consider protective actions if you are in an area vulnerable to flooding. - ACT: Heed any flood watches and warnings. Failure to take action may result in serious injury or loss of life. - POTENTIAL IMPACTS: Significant - Moderate rainfall flooding may prompt several evacuations and rescues. - Rivers and streams may quickly become swollen with swifter currents and may overspill their banks in a few places, especially in usually vulnerable spots. Small streams, creeks, canals, and ditches may overflow. - Flood waters can enter some structures or weaken foundations. Several places may experience expanded areas of rapid inundation at underpasses, low lying spots, and poor drainage areas. Some streets and parking lots take on moving water as storm drains and retention ponds overflow. Driving conditions become hazardous. Some road and bridge closures. * TORNADO - LATEST LOCAL FORECAST: - Situation is somewhat favorable for tornadoes - THREAT TO LIFE AND PROPERTY THAT INCLUDES TYPICAL FORECAST UNCERTAINTY IN TRACK, SIZE AND INTENSITY: Potential for a few tornadoes - The tornado threat has remained nearly steady from the previous assessment. - PLAN: Emergency plans should include the potential for a few tornadoes. - PREPARE: If your shelter is particularly vulnerable to tornadoes, prepare to relocate to safe shelter before hazardous weather arrives. - ACT: If a tornado warning is issued, be ready to shelter quickly. - POTENTIAL IMPACTS: Limited - The occurrence of isolated tornadoes can hinder the execution of emergency plans during tropical events. - A few places may experience tornado damage, along with power and communications disruptions. - Locations could realize roofs peeled off buildings, chimneys toppled, mobile homes pushed off foundations or overturned, large tree tops and branches snapped off, shallow rooted trees knocked over, moving vehicles blown off roads, and small boats pulled from moorings. * FOR MORE INFORMATION: - http://scoem.suffolkcountyny.gov - https://weather.gov/nyc - https://ready.gov/hurricanes

When Does Adolescence End?

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How do you parent a thirty-two year old son who acts like he is fifteen? More and more parents are being faced with this concern. Traditionally, adolescence lasted until the later teens, maybe early twenties. ...

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How do you parent a thirty-two year old son who acts like he is fifteen? More and more parents are being faced with this concern. Traditionally, adolescence lasted until the later teens, maybe early twenties. Now many health professionals are suggesting that adolescence is lasting until the early thirties.


Why the shift? Traditionally, children went to elementary school, high school, college, then went out on their own and eventually got married. For better or for worse those life patterns are changing. A growing number of high school coeds are on the five-year high school plan, so they don't go off to college right away.


If your son or daughter goes off to college right after high school, he or she may be on the five-year plan for a four-year degree. Many students go away to school. They live on campus, have a meal plan and laundry service. Their parents send them a monthly allowance. Thus, they never have to worry about paying bills or managing any real money. Everything, for the most part, is managed for them.


College is not just a career training ground, but also a social adventure. Too often students end up on the five-year plan for a four-year degree because their social adventure gets out of hand.


In an effort to be supportive, many parents keep paying the bills without their children being held accountable for some of their expensive social choices. Too often there are no consequences for their recklessness. When that recklessness is repetitive and goes un-addressed, that is potentially dangerous.


Adolescence is further extended by the fact that many entry level professional positions are demanding a master's degree. Graduate school education is costly and competitive. A growing number of undergraduates are being drawn into staying on at their respective college or university to finish their first master's degree.


So, before our son or daughter is out on his or her own, he or she could realistically be in his or her late twenties. When they finally graduate and come home with two degrees and no job, they have the challenge of marketing themselves.


Becoming employed in our highly competitive society is, at best, a struggle, depending on one's field of education. In addition to employment, you now have to contend with college loan repayment schedules, your own health insurance, car payments, car insurance payments, a cell phone bill, personal needs and we have not even talked about rent and living on one's own. This newly liberated graduate student is just beginning to manage a checkbook and all of the headaches that go along with it.


To make life easier for your adult son or daughter, you say they can live at home for free, as long as they respect the house and you as parents. (Unfortunately, that means different things to different people.)


You have not lived together for long periods of time (beyond summer breaks) in years. It becomes clear a few weeks after your adult child settles in that this is not going to be a positive adventure. The typical things re-emerge from early adolescence like being sloppy, insensitive and not helpful around the house. You pray that the "new tenant" won't be staying too long.


Unfortunately, the weeks are now moving into months and no real career employment is emerging. You keep stressing to him or her "take anything, even McDonald's" so that he or she has some kind of income to meet his or her basic expenses.


It becomes a real catch twenty-two. You want your adult son or daughter to be responsible, but he or she does not have a job yet so you keep covering his or her expenses. He or she only seems to work enough to cover partying expenses. And the cycle continues.


When you confront this irresponsible lifestyle, your child becomes very defensive. He or she falls back on the old teenage tool of pitting parents against one another. As the Dad, you are calling your thirty-two year old son or daughter to accountability. You are getting on him or her for being selfish and self-serving. He or she then cries to your wife that you are being too harsh and that you don't understand. More often than not your wife is manipulated into taking your adult child's side and defending him or her.


That dynamic causes increasing tension between you and your spouse. Your son or daughter is so effective that you do back off, until he or she ticks you off again.


Your parental dilemma is that you want your child to leave your home the right way. You want the home of their youth to be a resource and place for your child to always be able to return to.
However, you never thought after a four year undergraduate degree and a master's degree that your child at age thirty-two would still be living at home like a sixteen year old.


What do you do to protect yourself and your teenager from evolving into that mess? As parents, we need to realize that all of life is a learning experience. When you go away to school, you should not be exempt from being socially, morally and ethically responsible. College is not summer camp. Maybe at times we make it too easy, all in the name of giving our children a life opportunity that maybe we did not have.


Going away to school is a great opportunity on a variety of levels. What expectations do we have of our children? What kind of grade point average do you expect them to maintain? If they don't meet those expectations, what are the consequences?


It is important to hold our children accountable, even if it means extending or detouring their higher education. We do our children a disservice when we do not hold them accountable.


At thirty-two, our sons and daughters should be self-sufficient and capable of living on their own. If they are not, we need to ask ourselves some hard questions and hopefully, we are not enabling them to be dysfunctional.