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Hi Chickie I was wondering if you help me out...
I'm 22 and boyfriendless...while everybody else around me is getting married or talking about getting married. I sometimes feel left out. I'm really shy when it comes to meeting people. I was wondering if you had any helpful tips in order to help me not be so shy...and finally find "him"?
Well, first of all let me tell you that you are YOUNG so you shouldn't feel rushed into anything just because people around you seem to be moving faster then you are. I am 22, and have no intentions of getting married any time soon. I do however have a boyfriend, and remember how much I hated not having one. Believe it or not I am not the most outgoing person, it is very easy to appear that way on-line, but trust me, I am SHY!
I have a few suggestions, try and go out a little more often, with friends, usually you are more relaxed when with friends. Try not to tune out everyone else around you though, if you look unapproachable, no one will approach you! Have fun, everyone likes fun people. Don't think of it as you are going out looking for someone, just enjoy yourself.
You might even want to try out the new technologies to get a man...hehehee... Hop in a chat, it is a lot easier, and you won't have to be so shy, its anonymous, so say whatever you want. Keep in mind though, you shouldn't just chat with someone for five minutes and then meet up. NEVER, EVER do that! Get to know them very well, after you feel you know them well, take their number (don't give out yours) and call them. Try and talk for a long time also, you want to be sure they are "normal" LOL. Then when you do finally decide to meet, make sure it is in a public place, if you can, during the day. Don't forget to tell someone where you are going, etc. You can never be too safe.
I know this all sounds very precocious, but don't be turned off by the idea. I met my boyfriend on the Internet, and he is the best thing to ever have happened to me! Please feel free to write me in the future and let me know how things went. Ohh, and one more piece of advice, you'll never find love if you are looking, so just have fun, and let things take its course. GOOD LUCK!!
There's this guy that I've had a really big crush on for a really long time. I know I should have told him a long time ago but I was afraid he would reject me. Now I'm feeling all these regrets. I would talk to him now....but he doesn't even know I exist. How do I get him to notice me?
I am not the type to mislead people, so I will be honest. There are two ways this could go. Either the guy considers you a friend, and thinks you are untouchable, OR he is completely uninterested in you.
Unfortunately more often then not it is the second. Guys tend to always think of girls as more then friends, so I doubt he hasn't considered you. If you really like the guy, and think about this, a LOT, then you should just tell him. The worst thing that could happen is that he tells you he isn't interested. Life goes on, it will be devastating at first, but you will end up being very relieved that you know exactly where you stand.
I don't think there is anything you should do to get him to notice you, I am a big fan of being yourself. If he doesn't like you for who you are, then he isn't worth the time you've been spending crushing on him.
If it is simply a crush, you might just want to move on. I personally would rather take the move on advice, but I'd kick myself in the ass for never knowing. If you have more guts then me, good for you! Go get him... keep me updated!
I just moved to Long Island a while ago and I was wondering what are the hot spots. I checked out your site, but I usually rather hear about it through someone who's been there. So I was wondering if you could recommend a place or two and let me know what the scene is like?
Thanks a million!!
With the summer coming there are so many places to go. If you have the time, and depending on where you live I've heard the place to be is out in the hamptons. I haven't been there to party in a few years, but I will be going this summer. So updates on that are pending.
In Nassau County I love Cyberia, its a nice place, large, and the music is good. There is also an area in Island Park where they have a bunch of clubs together, one of them, south beach, is really cool, you might want to check that out. Everyone's taste is different though, you really just need to go and try places. If you find a place that you love, let me know, I'd like to check it out.
For the past year or so I have been dating around and trying to meet a decent guy, but have had no such luck. Most of the time, I find myself stuck in the "quick fling" kind of deal and I leave feeling like I have done nothing more than waste my time. Most of the guys I meet, I meet at a bar or on campus....do you have any good ideas as to where I can meet nice men?
I don't know if it is where you are going that is bad, or the types of guys you are ending up with. I think you need to be more particular about who you spend your time with. If you think of yourself highly, others will also. I am sure you deserve a lot more then a "fling".
So next time you meet a guy take it slow, you might need to take things a little more serious yourself!
Well, that is all the advice I have for this session... Keep the questions coming guys, I love hearing from you all. AND to those who did write... THANK YOU!
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