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ISAIAS CONTINUES MOVING NORTH This product covers Southeast New York, Northeast New Jersey, and Southern Connecticut **ISAIAS CONTINUES MOVING NORTH** NEW INFORMATION --------------- * CHANGES TO WATCHES AND WARNINGS: - None * CURRENT WATCHES AND WARNINGS: - A Tropical Storm Warning is in effect for Bronx, Eastern Bergen, Eastern Essex, Eastern Passaic, Eastern Union, Hudson, Kings (Brooklyn), New York (Manhattan), Northeastern Suffolk, Northern Fairfield, Northern Middlesex, Northern Nassau, Northern New Haven, Northern New London, Northern Queens, Northern Westchester, Northwestern Suffolk, Orange, Putnam, Richmond (Staten Island), Rockland, Southeastern Suffolk, Southern Fairfield, Southern Middlesex, Southern Nassau, Southern New Haven, Southern New London, Southern Queens, Southern Westchester, Southwestern Suffolk, Western Bergen, Western Essex, Western Passaic, and Western Union * STORM INFORMATION: - About 130 miles north of New York City NY or about 160 miles northwest of Montauk Point NY - 42.7N 74.2W - Storm Intensity 65 mph - Movement North-northeast or 20 degrees at 40 mph SITUATION OVERVIEW ------------------ The effects from Tropical Storm Isaias are expected to diminish quickly from southwest to northeast this evening as the storm moves north of the area. While threats are beginning to diminish, strong winds will continue into this evening. In addition, minor coastal flooding, high surf, and dangerous rip currents will continue. Strong winds will continue across the area into early this evening before diminishing tonight. Dangerous marine conditions are likely across all of the coastal waters through tonight. High surf and dangerous rip currents are expected to continue along the ocean beaches through Wednesday. POTENTIAL IMPACTS ----------------- * WIND: Potential impacts from the main wind event are now unfolding across the area. Remain well sheltered from dangerous wind having possible significant impacts. If realized, these impacts include: - Some damage to roofing and siding materials, along with damage to porches, awnings, carports, and sheds. A few buildings experiencing window, door, and garage door failures. Mobile homes damaged, especially if unanchored. Unsecured lightweight objects become dangerous projectiles. - Several large trees snapped or uprooted, but with greater numbers in places where trees are shallow rooted. Several fences and roadway signs blown over. - Some roads impassable from large debris, and more within urban or heavily wooded places. A few bridges, causeways, and access routes impassable. - Scattered power and communications outages, but more prevalent in areas with above ground lines. * SURGE: Potential impacts from the main surge event are possible this evening. Remain well away from locally hazardous surge having possible limited impacts. If realized, these impacts include: - Localized inundation with storm surge flooding mainly along immediate shorelines and in low lying spots, or in areas farther inland near where higher surge waters move ashore. - Sections of near shore roads and parking lots become overspread with surge water. Driving conditions dangerous in places where surge water covers the road. - Moderate beach erosion. Heavy surf also breaching dunes, mainly in usually vulnerable locations. Strong and frequent rip currents. - Minor to locally moderate damage to marinas, docks, boardwalks, and piers. A few small craft broken away from moorings.

The Courage to Parent

Communities all across Long Island have become alarmed at the use of heroin in our schools and our neighborhoods. Many communities have sponsored community forums to discuss the heroin epidemic and what we might do ...

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Communities all across Long Island have become alarmed at the use of heroin in our schools and our neighborhoods. Many communities have sponsored community forums to discuss the heroin epidemic and what we might do as a community to respond to this crisis.

Across Suffolk County townships and school districts have seen a record number of parents and students gathering for these programs. Miller Place had over 700 parents and students come together. Smithtown and Commack school districts each had over a thousand parents and students gather for a night program of information and challenge.

Recently, the Commack School Community featured two dynamic speakers that kept the audience engaged for more than two hours. Charles Bernard, a regional DEA agent gave a very compelling and graphic presentation on how heroin has reached our neighborhoods.

Dr. Stephen Dewey, a scientist from the Feinstein Institute was probably the most powerful presenter of the evening. His groundbreaking research on brain imaging is transforming our understanding of what drugs and alcohol do to the brain and the rest of the human body. His presentation was dynamic, understandable and frightening.

Probably the most important thing he said had less to do with his scientific research, and more to do with his role as a parent of two teenagers. He stood before over a thousand people, and as a parent challenged all the parents gathered to take back their parenting authority and parent more responsibly. He said that it is unconscionable that we tolerate underage drinking, which from his perspective is out of control. He urged parents to have the courage to be parents.

As a member of the audience, I listened attentively to his comments. After his comment about parental responsibility, the audience broke into spontaneous, thunderous applause. So many parents were shaking their heads in approval.

For more than 25 years, I have worked with families in crisis. I have sat with countless parents who are literally afraid to parent. Too many of our present parents are more fixated on being friends with their teenage children, rather than parenting them.

When I do a parenting workshop, I remind parents that there is a very simple litmus test of one s effectiveness as a parent. If your son or daughter tells you a million times a day, how much he or she hates your guts, you know you re being an effective parent.

Parenting is probably the most challenging enterprise that caring adults must embrace. It is a full-time job. It does not come with a handbook that is good for all. To be effective, there is a lot of on-the-job training, a lot of learning as you go and trial and error. The most important skill a parent must possess is open communication. You have to talk to your children and equally as important, have to listen to them.

The human landscape is radically different today than it was 25 years ago. Our children are exposed to so much with the technology highway, television and the media. The average eighth grader has seen more sex, violence and abuse on television than most of us will see in three lifetimes.

It is hard to parent today. You have to be willing to be in conflict with your son or daughter based on principle. You cannot casually compromise basic human values. No is not a dirty word, and you should not be afraid to use it when it is appropriate. An important question to raise in your family is who is in charge? Are you in charge or are your children running the show?

It s Friday night, do you know where your 17-year-old is? Does he or she have a curfew? What is your position on underage drinking, smoking pot and abusing prescription drugs? Do you pretend not to see these volatile social issues? What price are you paying choosing to be blind to this human infection?

If Jack comes home drunk or high, what is the consequence? Do you enforce it or let him maneuver around you? How many times do you tolerate his reckless behavior? When do you seek professional help? These are definitely hard questions to reflect upon. However, they are questions that must be addressed. Too many teenagers are not being held accountable for the choices that they make. A growing number of them see nothing wrong with smoking pot every day and drinking every weekend.

The argument they make is that they are good students and basically respectful at home. So what s the big deal! They fail to address that their social choices are against the law and potentially harmful to their human development. Part of the problem is that most teenagers believe they are invincible and that all of our concerns should not apply to them.

Mr. and Mrs. K have an intact family. They have five children. Their discipline is very laid back and often times nonexistent. Four out of the five of their children are teenagers. The teenagers are reasonable students and fairly involved in school activities. However, they believe that they can do whatever they want, whenever they want. Their parents rarely interfere.

By their silence, Mr. and Mrs. K. tolerate their teenage children s reckless decision making and behavior. The two older teenagers smoke pot regularly and drink on the weekends. The parents are aware and have never sanctioned them.

A month ago, their oldest son was coming home from a party where he was engaged in heavy drinking. He wasn t slurring his speech or imbalanced on his feet. He thought he was fine to drive home. He did, and he ran a stop sign. It was 4 a.m. and someone saw that and called 911. A few minutes later, he was stopped by a cop and given a sobriety test. He failed. His blood-alcohol content was double the legal limit. He was arrested. Because he was under 21, at his arraignment his license was revoked until his 21st birthday.

His criminal case is still pending. His parents who are good people are mad that someone reported him and frustrated that he has no license, and they have mounting legal fees to pay. What is really tragic is their inability to see their irresponsible parenting and their choice not to hold their son more accountable for his choices. They should thank the person who reported him, because he possibly saved their son s life and others who could have been victimized.