Well here is my first advice question, and it comes from a girl named 'M'. She asked me a rather simple question -
"My boyfriend and I are always fighting, and I want to break-up with him but I love him too much. What should I do?"
My advice - At first I told her to follow her heart. Maybe things would get better, and if you truly love each other maybe you could work through this rough patch. To which she responded "If I follow my heart I'll NEVER break up with him!"
So here is my final advice for 'M' and all the other 'Troubled' relationships out there.
Indeed, the first step is to follow your heart - If your love is mutual then you should be able to work through anything.
However, there comes a time in every relationship where you begin to question your feelings for the other person; it's natural.
But continuous fighting and bickering is something that needs to be addressed. It's great if you have found that "someone special" but if you can't spend five minutes witout arguing maybe it's time for a break.
Not neccessarily a break-up but maybe a cooling period for each of you to spend time on your own to figure yourselves out. Remember your attitude directly affects the people around you. If you're moody all the time maybe it's because you've lost who YOU are.
Being with another person is great, and being in love with them is even better, but losing that person due to inane bickering and confrontations is not the way to go.
So my final advice is to just take some time for yourself and re-discover who you are. In doing so you allow yourself to be independent again and realize what makes you so special.
It also gives you the time and space to figure out if this person is truly someone you want to continue to invest time in.
The best type of relationship is when two people can come together and be just as perfect as two people apart.
If you have any questions you want answered, E-mail me! Singles@Longisland.com