It is very difficult to explain the events that happened on September 11th, 2001 to our kids. Some children weren’t even born yet, some are too young to understand the events fully, and even as adults who lived through the event we still have a hard time grasping what happened on that tragic day. Talking about the events can also be very painful. It reminds us not only of that horrific day, but of the innocent lives lost and how vulnerable and helpless we felt during the attacks.

This September 11th marks the 13th anniversary of the day that changed our state, our nation, and us forever. It is a day that will never be forgotten, and it is a day you should commemorate and, when they are ready, teach your kids about.

Visit a Memorial or Tribute – Take the LIRR over to NYC to view the Tribute in Light on the evening of September 11th or to visit the 9/11 Memorial Museum. Even if you cannot make it out to the city, there are many 9/11 memorial events happening right here on Long Island to take part in.

Have Open Discussion – Even though this topic is a hard one to discuss, it shouldn’t be avoided. Kids need to feel comfortable asking you questions about 9/11 and sharing their own memories, beliefs, and thoughts on the event. This is why having open lines of communication is so important. Listen to them, answer their questions as best you can, and acknowledge the fact that even now we do not have all of the answers.

Volunteer – Spend the day volunteering at a local charity or cause. Do it as a family and give back to the community for the day. You’ll be teaching your kids a valuable lesson about kindness, selflessness, and the importance of helping out your fellow man.

Focus on Hope – The 9/11 attacks showed us the absolute worst in people, but they also showed us the absolute best in people. Focus on all of the heroes of that day, all of the compassion and aid that people provided one another, and the way our country came together, united, after the terrible events.

If you are still unsure about how to talk to your kids about 9/11 here and here are two more good resources for help.

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